I am confused about my sexuality. I love my husband but since my abuse we don't have sex. I'm not sure if I'm gay or not. Maybe I'm just "A sexual". All I know is I'm a Christian and want to go to Heaven.

On 7/13/2025 at 1:44 PM, Krissycakes09 said:

I am confused about my sexuality. I love my husband but since my abuse we don't have sex. I'm not sure if I'm gay or not. Maybe I'm just "A sexual". All I know is I'm a Christian and want to go to Heaven.

Have you spoken to your husband about how you feel? It sounds like it's all down to trauma.

5 hours ago, Lavender said:

Have you spoken to your husband about how you feel? It sounds like it's all down to trauma.

I tried talking to him about it last night but he doesn't understand. 😑

I'm inclined to agree with @Lavender, I feel this might be more down to unresolved trauma than issues with sexuality. Not saying it isn't to do with sexuality, it still could be, just might be something you want to try and talk to a therapist about and your husband once you've had some time to process it a bit. 🫂

2 hours ago, SpilledIt said:

I'm inclined to agree with @Lavender, I feel this might be more down to unresolved trauma than issues with sexuality. Not saying it isn't to do with sexuality, it still could be, just might be something you want to try and talk to a therapist about and your husband once you've had some time to process it a bit. 🫂

Thank you @SpilledIt . 🫂 I will talk to my therapist. 🙂

11 hours ago, Krissycakes09 said:

Thank you @SpilledIt . 🫂 I will talk to my therapist. 🙂

Always a good decision. I had a long talk with mine today about my increased suicidal ideation and I immediately had a chat with my psychiatrist afterwards so we could adjust and actually remove one of my medications. Hopefully it'll help moving forward :)

Yeah, I've been having bad thoughts due to pain and nightmares. 😭

16 minutes ago, Krissycakes09 said:

Yeah, I've been having bad thoughts due to pain and nightmares. 😭

I can't wait for your pain to be sorted. That will help a lot of things. You deserve to live pain free!

Just now, SpilledIt said:

I can't wait for your pain to be sorted. That will help a lot of things. You deserve to live pain free!

I agree but unfortunately that won't happen as the physical conditions i have and of course the mental side of things. ☹️

9 minutes ago, Krissycakes09 said:

I agree but unfortunately that won't happen as the physical conditions i have and of course the mental side of things. ☹️

Well, one step at a time. We'll keep hoping and pushing for things to get better

6 hours ago, SpilledIt said:

Well, one step at a time. We'll keep hoping and pushing for things to get better