sabrina

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Lovely poem. Thank you for sharing. My mum passed away at 62 years old and it will be 3 years this Christmas without her. Her passing was the first major death that I had to experience in my life and it was honestly the worst experience ever. Grief is the price you pay for love. Anniversaries suck.

I haven’t experienced this but my partner has. The long lasting impact is real and it can be a hard cycle to break and put up boundaries with the narcissist, especially if it’s a relative.

I’m not in crisis. Please talk to people when u feel like that.

I don’t have a personality disorder but I’ve worked with people who have. They often use DBT as that’s what is recommended. Self-soothing is a big thing.

I’m not sure about the title of this thread - CBT versus talk therapy. CBT would be considered as a talking therapy as would a lot of the others. I had two CBT sessions as that’s the go to in the NHS then they stepped me up to interpersonal dynamic (which is higher intensity). It focused on self care and relationships with others. It really helped. I would be open to counselling too, which would probably have a more humanistic approach.

There’s plenty of ways to get things out of life - it isn’t just dependent on getting a ‘good education’ and scoring a high-paid job. There’s other ways to seek fulfilment. Please don’t be hard on yourself.

I struggle with this a lot sometimes. Music and going for a walk is my go to.

I usually don’t experience anger. Sometimes irritability and I will take a step out of the situation when I do otherwise I may be prone to saying things I may end up regretting.

Usually at night if I stay up a bit and I am sleeping alone. It makes me sit with my thoughts and grief. During the day, I feel pretty social. :)

I’m sad to hear that your friend passed away. Please look after yourself.

It sucks that you’re going through such a hard time but it’s good that you are able to reflect and acknowledge that you are not feeling okay. The medication, walks, contacting people can be overwhelming tasks but you did that! I’m proud of you. In terms of the adrenaline comment, I think that they are referring to the ‘ride the wave’ model. The model is used in addiction but can be applied to other mental health diagnoses where there is a point where an emotion is heightened. Your body won’t stay in that flight or fright feeling forever and you have to ride the wave until it inevitably comes down. However, it can feel painful and never-ending when it’s like that, especially if the usual techniques don’t work and it feels like crisis. Please let us know how you get on and when it improves for you!

Will be thinking of you.

Has anyone here had to cut off family before? What was your experience with it? I haven’t talked to my brother is like over 2 years. We are on bad terms with each other but I’ve reached the point where I feel very emotionally disengaged from him and the situation. Like he never existed. I may get into the situation a bit later on.

I love this song. I got addicted to it in 2022 when the Stranger Things season came out and Max was obsessed with it. I was going through a tough time myself so I found it comforting to put it on repeat. Timeless song really.

England versus Wales (Women’s football)

I was offered CBT but at the time, it wasn’t clinically appropriate for my situation. I then tried interpersonal dynamic or something - basically the one which helps navigate social situations and relationships in a self care scenario. It really helped me to be honest.

I used to be ‘fake’ when I was younger. Now I am pretty transparent with most people and it helps communicate what I need a lot. Only place I struggle a bit is with family but I don’t think they can provide the emotional comfort I need anyways.

For me, if I can’t get the motivation for myself, I will do it for other people. Sometimes thinking of my loved ones is what gets me through the day. It makes me feel like I have a meaning.

Stress and work. I have an awful anxiety that I will do something wrong at work and end up being fired. There’s never been any indications of that - but it’s to the to the point that I will think about it constantly. I try distract myself and talk to other people about it.

January 3rd. Capricorns… represent!

I realised that I liked girls when I was 14 years old. I had a crush on one of my friends but nothing became of it. I didn’t really know any other queer people, especially females, and my school wasn’t the best environment to be gay in so I kept it to very small friend circle. I used ‘bisexual’ as a soft term for it as I think part of the journey when you’re gay or lesbian is to accept that you don’t like the sex that you’re meant to by society. That’s the harder part than accepting that you like the same-sex. I remember the first friend I told about this and thankfully she took it well. I had an e-flirty situation-ship when I was 16 and I think having that romantic connection solidified for me that I liked girls. But part of me wanted to also like guys even if I didn’t have intention to date them. I think it was more when girls talk about hot guys and stuff but that wasn’t me. Plus, male attention is a lot easier to obtain than female attention, in my opinion. I think that situationship gave me the confidence to tell a slightly bigger circle of people that I liked girls and connected me with a gay male friend. I remember he was like ‘do you like her?’. So it felt natural and smooth. First female relationship was when I was 18 years old. Same with first female kiss versus first male kiss at 13 years old (whoops). The first girlfriend didn’t last long. At uni it was easier to say I was into girls because of fresh people who only knew me that way. Some guys would speculate about my sexual orientation as I am a bit of a stereotype, hahaha. I’ll save more of my coming out stuff for later. But that’s my internal journey and early teenage years. My journey started around the time gay marriage was legalised here in the UK.

It’s everything. It’s about being you and celebrating you, the good, the bad and the ugly. ;)