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  1. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is one of the most widely misunderstood mental health conditions. Often portrayed negatively in the media, BPD carries a heavy stigma yet for those living with it, the reality is far more complex, painful, and human than the stereotypes suggest. By shedding light on what BPD truly is, we can build empathy, reduce judgment, and encourage compassion for people who face this daily struggle. What Is Borderline Personality Disorder?Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental health condition characterised by intense emotions, unstable relationships, and difficulties with self-image. It affects the way people think and feel about themselves and others, often leading to impulsive actions and conflict in relationships. According to mental health professionals, BPD typically involves patterns of: Emotional instability – extreme mood swings that can shift rapidly. Fear of abandonment – a deep anxiety about rejection or being left alone. Unstable relationships – swinging between idealizing and devaluing others. Identity struggles – uncertainty about self-image, values, or goals. Impulsive behaviors – reckless spending, substance use, unsafe sex, or binge eating. Chronic emptiness – a persistent feeling of inner void. Self-harm or suicidal thoughts – often as a way of coping with overwhelming emotions. What Causes BPD?The causes of Borderline Personality Disorder are complex and not fully understood. Most researchers agree it results from a mix of: Genetics – family history of BPD or other mental health conditions may increase risk. Brain chemistry and structure – differences in brain function can influence emotional regulation. Trauma and environment – childhood abuse, neglect, or unstable family life are common experiences among those diagnosed. Attachment difficulties – struggles with secure attachments in early life may lead to challenges in adult relationships. It’s important to remember that no single factor “causes” BPD, it’s usually a combination of vulnerabilities and experiences. Living with BPDFor people with BPD, everyday life can feel like walking an emotional tightrope. Relationships often feel overwhelming, and even small events may trigger intense emotional reactions. Many describe a sense of “not knowing who I am” or feeling like their emotions are in constant turmoil. Unfortunately, stigma makes this even harder. People with BPD are sometimes unfairly labeled as “manipulative” or “difficult,” which can discourage them from seeking the help they need. In reality, these behaviors often come from a place of fear, vulnerability, and emotional pain rather than intent to harm. Treatment and SupportThe good news is that Borderline Personality Disorder is treatable, and recovery is possible with the right support. Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) – a therapy specifically designed for BPD that teaches emotional regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, and interpersonal skills. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) – helps challenge negative thinking patterns. Medication – while no drug specifically treats BPD, medications may help with symptoms like anxiety, depression, or mood swings. Support groups – connecting with others who understand can reduce isolation and provide hope. Healthy coping strategies – journaling, grounding techniques, creative outlets, and mindfulness practices can all help manage intense emotions. Recovery is not about “curing” BPD overnight, it’s about learning tools to build stability, strengthen relationships, and create a meaningful life. Supporting Someone with BPDIf someone you love has BPD, you may sometimes feel confused, frustrated, or helpless. Supporting them requires patience and understanding. Here are some ways to help: Listen without judgment – validate their feelings, even if you don’t fully understand. Encourage treatment – gently support them in seeking therapy and sticking with it. Learn about the condition – the more you understand, the less personal emotional reactions will feel. Set healthy boundaries – care for your own well-being too. Most importantly, remember that people with BPD are not defined by their diagnosis. They are individuals with unique strengths, talents, and potential. Breaking the StigmaBorderline Personality Disorder is not a character flaw or a life sentence. It’s a condition rooted in emotional sensitivity and past experiences and with the right help, people with BPD can live full, meaningful lives. The more we replace judgment with compassion, the more likely people will seek help and feel understood. At its heart, BPD is about pain and the human need for connection. By recognising this, we can move away from stigma and towards healing and acceptance. View full article
  2. Lavender replied to Lavender's topic in Animals
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  3. It's very pretty @Angela
  4. Yep, I have fallen quite a few times. I am just clumsy.
  5. Jamie Borthwick won’t return to EastEnders after suspension (Picture: BBC/Jack Barnes/Kieron McCarron) Jay Brown will not be on Albert’s Square again as actor Jamie Borthwickhas reportedly been ‘axed’ from EastEnders. The exit comes four months after he was suspended from the long-running BBC soap for using a disabled slur. He was caught on camera saying the derogatory phrase while describing the people of Blackpool when on the set of Strictly Come Dancing. Borthwick had been on Albert’s Square since 2006, making him one of the longest-serving cast members still working on the show. A spokesperson for BBC Studios confirmed to Metro that ‘Jamie Borthwick will not be returning to EastEnders’. They added: ‘We do not comment on individual matters.’ At the time of the scandal, BBC bosses issued a statement, calling his comments ‘entirely unacceptable’. ‘We have robust processes in place for this,’ they added to Metro, declaring that what Jamie said ‘in no way reflects the values or standards [they] hold and expect at the BBC.’ Scope, a disability charity, also called for him to get ‘awareness training’ as the actor apologised ‘sincerely and wholeheartedly’. He claimed he ‘did not fully understand the derogatory term’, adding now he was aware of the meaning he was ‘deeply embarrassed’. ‘When I made the video, I was excited and caught up in the moment,’ Borthwick said. ‘Again, that is no excuse. But my regrettable actions are not a true reflection of my views or who I am.’ ‘The character hasn’t had a major storyline recently – he’s been very much a supporting character of late.’ They pointed out that the actor has kept busy outside of EastEnders, with his turn in Strictly and other projects, with only about 30 appearances in the past year. ‘With a new boss in Ben Wadey who only recently took the helm and with the scandal taking place so soon into his tenure feeling is that Jamie’s place on the show could be at serious risk,’ they continued. Borthwick has not yet publicly spoken out about his exit from EastEnders. View full article
  6. No never have. I don't really see the point in Grandparents day.
  7. So it does and thanks. :)
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  9. Added a Lavender theme.
  10. Depression is a serious mental health condition that goes beyond temporary sadness. It affects thoughts, feelings, behavior, and physical health. Recognizing symptoms early and seeking appropriate support can significantly improve outcomes. Recognizing SymptomsDepression presents in various forms: Persistent feelings of sadness or emptiness. Loss of interest or pleasure in previously enjoyable activities. Fatigue, low energy, and reduced motivation. Changes in appetite, sleep, or weight. Difficulty concentrating or making decisions. Feelings of hopelessness or guilt. Causes of DepressionBiological factors: Brain chemistry imbalances or genetics. Environmental factors: Trauma, abuse, or prolonged stress. Psychological factors: Low self-esteem or negative thought patterns. Coping StrategiesProfessional Support: Psychologists, therapists, or psychiatrists can provide therapy and, if needed, medication. Social Support: Friends, family, or support groups can provide understanding and encouragement. Lifestyle Adjustments: Regular exercise, proper sleep, and balanced nutrition help regulate mood. Routine and Structure: Daily schedules and small achievable goals maintain focus and purpose. Mindfulness and Relaxation: Meditation, deep breathing, and journaling foster emotional awareness. Practical TipsAvoid isolation; stay connected even when motivation is low. Celebrate small achievements to boost self-esteem. Monitor mood patterns to identify triggers and improvements. View full article
  11. Spaghetti Carbonara is a beloved Italian classic that’s rich, creamy, and packed with flavor. With just a few simple ingredients eggs, Parmesan, pancetta, and black pepper you can make this delicious comfort food at home in under 30 minutes. Ingredients (Serves 4)400g spaghetti 150g pancetta, diced 3 large eggs 100g Parmesan, grated 2 cloves garlic, minced Salt and black pepper, to taste 1 tbsp olive oil InstructionsCook spaghetti in salted boiling water until al dente. Reserve ½ cup pasta water. In a pan, heat olive oil and sauté pancetta and garlic until crispy. Beat eggs with Parmesan and a pinch of black pepper in a bowl. Drain pasta and return to the pot. Quickly mix in egg mixture, tossing constantly. Add reserved pasta water if needed for creaminess. Add pancetta, mix, and serve immediately with extra Parmesan. TipsWork quickly when adding the egg mixture to avoid scrambling. Garnish with fresh parsley for a pop of color. View full article
  12. If you love rich, flavourful chicken dishes, this Creamy Garlic Butter Tuscan Chicken recipe is a must try. Packed with garlic, sun-dried tomatoes, and fresh spinach, it’s comfort food elevated to a restaurant quality meal. The best part? It’s simple enough to make on a weeknight, but impressive enough for dinner guests. Ingredients (Serves 4)4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts 2 tbsp olive oil 3 tbsp butter 4 cloves garlic, minced 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved ½ cup sun-dried tomatoes, chopped 1 cup heavy cream ½ cup grated Parmesan cheese 2 cups fresh baby spinach 1 tsp Italian seasoning Salt and pepper to taste Fresh parsley, chopped (for garnish) InstructionsPrep the chicken: Pat the chicken breasts dry and season both sides with salt, pepper, and Italian seasoning. Cook the chicken: In a large skillet, heat olive oil over medium-high heat. Add chicken breasts and cook 5–6 minutes per side until golden brown and fully cooked. Remove and set aside. Make the sauce: Reduce heat to medium. Melt butter in the same skillet. Add minced garlic and sauté for 1 minute until fragrant. Add tomatoes: Stir in cherry tomatoes and sun-dried tomatoes. Cook 2–3 minutes until slightly softened. Add cream and cheese: Pour in heavy cream and sprinkle in Parmesan cheese. Stir until smooth and creamy. Add spinach: Toss in fresh spinach and cook until wilted. Combine and serve: Return the chicken to the skillet, spoon sauce over the top, and simmer 2–3 minutes. Garnish with chopped parsley and serve warm. TipsServe with pasta, mashed potatoes, or rice to soak up the creamy sauce. For extra flavor, try adding a splash of white wine to the sauce before adding the cream. Leftovers store well in the fridge for up to 3 days and can be reheated gently on the stove. View full article
  13. My eyesight is really bad, Can't see a thing without my glasses. I used to have good eyesight but I think medication has had a bad affect on my eyes. I have been waiting to see a surgeon for 2 1/2 years.
  14. AYou got 9 correct out of 10, or 90% Braingle » 'Weather Songs' Trivia QuizA Music Quiz : Do you listen to music when you are feeling under the weather? Many songs have been written about the weather, often as a reference to our emotions. » Weather Songs
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