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Hi @Kyng Welcome and its lovely to see you again.

Hi @Kim Welcome to the forum and it’s lovely to meet you.

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Cornflakes

Video of my grandson.

Tired, I hardly slept last night.

Sunny and muggy. meant to be hotter tomorrow 🥵

hubby

nowhere

It's getting ridiculously hot 🥵

Minding my Grandson overnight.

Made a cuppa

Laundry

A ticket for a football match.

1:12 pm

Put the meat in the oven

Therapy is really tough. It takes me days to get over a session, but just try whenever you feel ready, good luck for the tribunal.

We have numerous forums, some mental health, health, relationships, we also have light hearted forums too, which we usually use as a distraction or just to get know one another.https://mentalhaven.co.uk/index.php?/forum/7-mental-health-support/ https://mentalhaven.co.uk/index.php?/forum/10-health-relationships-and-lgbt/ Or we also have blogs if you would like to start one. https://mentalhaven.co.uk/index.php?/blogs/ If you're not sure how to create a thread, then let me know :)

Hi @Autumn75 Just want to to know that I do read your blogs. Did you know that we now have a blog system. up to you of course if you would rather post here. https://mentalhaven.co.uk/index.php?/blogs/

Anxiety isn’t just about feeling worried — it’s often a loop that our minds and bodies get stuck in. The more we try to avoid or fight the feelings, the stronger they seem to get. Understanding this cycle can be the first step toward feeling calmer and more in control. What Is the Anxiety Cycle?Anxiety tends to follow a familiar pattern: Trigger — Something (a thought, event, or sensation) makes you feel unsafe or uncertain. Anxious Thoughts — “What if something goes wrong?” or “I can’t handle this.” Physical Symptoms — Racing heart, tight chest, nausea, dizziness. Avoidance or Safety Behaviors — Canceling plans, checking repeatedly, seeking reassurance. Temporary Relief — Avoiding feels good short term... but it feeds the fear long term. Cycle Repeats — Next time, the trigger feels even scarier. Sound familiar? It’s a loop many of us fall into without realizing it — and it’s exhausting. How to Gently Break the CycleYou don’t have to be harsh with yourself to make a change. In fact, kindness and curiosity are the most powerful tools you have. 1. Name What You’re FeelingLabeling the emotion “This is anxiety” activates the thinking part of your brain. It gives you a little space from the panic. 2. Pause the FightYou don’t have to “beat” anxiety. Try saying: “I can feel this and still be okay.” Let the sensation rise and fall like a wave. 3. Face, Don’t FleeAvoidance feels good now, but it makes anxiety louder later. Taking small, safe steps toward what you fear helps your brain learn: “This isn’t as dangerous as it feels.” 4. Build a Tolerance WindowThe goal isn’t zero anxiety it’s building your ability to sit with discomfort without it ruling your choices. That’s emotional strength. 5. Create New LoopsAfter a tough moment, try grounding: breathe, sip water, touch something textured. Reassure your body that it’s safe now. The more often you do this, the weaker the anxiety loop becomes. Be Patient With YourselfBreaking anxiety patterns takes time and that’s okay. You’re not failing if it doesn’t disappear overnight. Every moment you respond with awareness instead of fear is a victory. You are not your anxiety. You are the calm observer behind it learning, healing, growing. View full article

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